15 Fun Date Night Ideas For Couples In Oklahoma City or Tulsa

15 Fun Date Night Ideas For Couples In Oklahoma City or Tulsa

Here at Marriage Solutions we’re always on the lookout for fun local activities to do for fun date nights.  Fun is crucial for a love to last.  We need to laugh together and go on adventures both great and small.

You know a life full of stress without stopping for fun can cause any great couple to end up in a marriage counselor’s office.  

So to inspire you, we have assembled 15 great date ideas for couples to do in Oklahoma City or for our couples in Tulsa to take a quick trip south. 

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Establishing Your Identity As A Couple In The First Year of Marriage

The task of the first year of marriage is to establish yourselves as a married couple - to become comfortable with your identity as a married pair and to adapt to dealing with others as married partners. That challenge is often complicated, however, by relatives who, well meaning though they may be, want to make certain that they still play a central role in your lives...

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What Researchers Say about New Parents

What Researchers Say about New Parents

Parenting that is compromised by fighting, irritability, and hostility lead to poor parent-child interaction. This creates a dangerous emotional climate for babies. This atmosphere will interfere with an infant’s ability to self-regulate and to stay calm. Both parents are working harder, but they both feel unappreciated. During the first year after babies arrive, the frequency and intensity of relationship conflicts increase 9 times what it was before the baby. It is normal for a mom’s sexual desire to drop precipitously after birth and even stay low for the first year, especially if she is nursing. Consequently, sex declines dramatically...

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5 Things To Remember When Considering Divorce

1. Set aside a time and place to tell your kids

After you have decided to divorce or separate, tell your kids before you act on it. Both of you should be present and plan what you will say to all of your kids at one time.

2. Prepare to answer your kids’ concerns

Children will have many questions about living arrangements, holidays, school, activities, new parents, pets, and friends.  Know ahead of time what some of these questions might be and have your response ready. You can help ease your children’s anxiety by giving them answers to their questions.

3. Keep in touch with grandparents

Grandparents can offer your children a form of support and stability that has been proven to be a major factor in helping children cope with the effects of divorce. Keep grandparents in the loop and ask them for their help during this difficult time.

4. Have a comfortable space for kids in each of your homes

Have some familiar items in a bedroom in each home to offer kids comfort and security. Also, have a space for older kids to place their school books, athletic gear, or musical instruments.

5. Remember marriage counseling can help you avoid divorcing and help you rebuild your marriage.

Coping With Divorce Or Separation?

Coping With Divorce Or Separation?

The way parents handle the stress of a divorce greatly influences their kid’s way of coping with it. Your child will be paying attention to how you cope with your divorce, so eat right and exercise, find a support group, and get counseling. You will be able to take better care of your child if you take better care of yourself....

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How Common is Depression?

August 12th, 2011

The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry has found that 1 in 20 kids and teenagers is significantly depressed. 

Almost 30% of 13 year olds show symptoms of depression.

15% of kids have had a major depression episode before they finish high school.

Because many depressive symptoms go unreported, experts predict that 1 in 4 kids will have a serious episode of depression before they finish high school.

Depression is not a normal phase, but it is a serious illness that can have severe consequences that sometimes result in death.

Kids with depression are more likely to develop drug or alcohol problems by their twenties.

Depression leads to suicide for 1 in 10 prepubescent kids.

In the past 30 years, suicide rates have tripled for kids and teens.

44 percent of kids who develop depression before they are 18 years old will go through another episode by the time they are 24 years old. 

Almost all of kids with untreated depression will go through another episode in the next three years of their life.

When diagnosed and treated early, kids will usually be able to get out of depression.

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What You Need to Know about Love

What You Need to Know about Love

People compare and confuse the intensity of being "in love" during an affair with the secure, comfortable feeling of reality-based "loving" that occurs in long-term relationships.

The feelings of being "in love" is linked to Stage 1 idealization, passion and infatuation, which are just fleeting feelings....

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7 Surprising Facts About Infidelity!

The following 7 facts often surprise people about infidelity.  So many people have been completely lied to and have no idea what really causes people to cheat.

  1. A happy marriage is not a vaccine against infidelity.
  2. The person having the affair may not be giving enough at home rather than not getting enough. 
  3. It is normal to be attracted to another person, but fantasizing about what it would be like to be with an other person is a danger sign.
  4. Flirting is crossing the line because it is an invitation that indicates receptivity. 
  5. Infidelity is not only about love or sex - it’s about maintaining appropriate boundaries with others and being open and honest in your committed relationship. 
  6. You do not have to have sexual intercourse to be unfaithful. Passionate kissing or oral sex is a violation of your commitment to your partner. 
  7. Emotional affairs are characterized by secrecy, emotional intimacy, and sexual chemistry. Emotional affairs can be more threatening than brief sexual flings.

Remember marriage counseling can help you avoid divorcing and help you rebuild your marriage. 

Are They Cheating? How To Know For Sure Without A Lie Detector Test.

Are They Cheating?  How To Know For Sure Without A Lie Detector Test.

Do you think your spouse is lying about an affair?  Are you thinking about asking or demanding a lie detector test?  We know it's tempting to get a lie detector test because it seems like the easiest way to get the truth...but think again!  Even if you get some truth out of them you won't achieve the healing you deserve with a simple test.  You need more.  You need an expert at body language, an expert at knowing when someone is really telling the truth about their feelings about your relationship, you need experts at healing your heart after discovering the truth.  You need us!  Read about the warning signs you're being cheated on...

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Secret #7 How To Create Rituals, Goals, and Roles for A Happy Marriage

Secret #7 How To Create Rituals, Goals, and Roles for A Happy Marriage

The 7th and final step to creating the marriage you want is to have a "Sense of Shared Meaning." By this I mean you need to have "rituals, goals and roles" that you share. 

Marriage isn't just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together. Developing a culture together doesn't mean a couple sees eye to eye on every aspect of their life's philosophy....

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Helping Your Spouse Win

Helping Your Spouse Win

Successful couples realize they must help their partner realize important life dreams and become effective at making each others life dreams and aspirations come true.

In short: Help each other win.

A good way to handle conflict in your marriage is working together as a team to achieve each other's life dreams. Many conflicts  in marriage are caused because life dreams are in conflict. You need to...

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Secret #4 The Trick of Accepting Influence & Sharing Control

Secret #4 The Trick of Accepting Influence & Sharing Control

Successful couples accept influence from each other. 

Meaning they listen to, and seek out each other's opinions before making a decision. This is particularly hard for most men and some women. So men please don't feel like I am picking on you in this blog post. I am a man myself; I know how difficult it is to do what I am saying here. 

But it is extremely important to...

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Secret #3 Turning Towards Your Partner In Times Of Need

Secret #3 Turning Towards Your Partner In Times Of Need

Successful couples turn towards each other instead of away.

Real life romance is fueled by a far more humdrum approach to staying connected. It is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life. 

Romance actually...

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How Fondness & Admiration Leads To Success In Marriage

How Fondness & Admiration Leads To Success In Marriage

This means they retain some fundamental sense that their partner is worthy of being respected and even liked. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance. 

Although happily married couples may feel driven to distraction at times by their partner's personality flaws, they feel that the person they married is worthy of honor and respect. When this sense is completely missing from a marriage, the relationship has a very....

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Creating Space for Your Spouse (It's not what you think)

Creating Space for Your Spouse (It's not what you think)

Something that successful couples do that separates themselves from non successful couples is they create "Cognitive Room" for each other. Meaning they know what is going on in their partner's day to day world; they know what stresses they face, what their goals are, who they like and dislike at work, names of childhood friends etc....

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