Should We Do Christian Counseling?
If you're a person of faith, like we are, you want to know that when you visit a marriage counselor you won't be told to give up and divorce. You want to know that the counselor you're seeing is marriage friendly, comes from a Christian world view, and wants to help you achieve a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.
22 Fun Ways To Build Fun and Romance Into Your Marriage
Your marriage health is incredibly important not just for your life expectancy but also for your kid’s life expectancy. Obviously we advocate for marriage counseling because that’s what we do…but we would love for you to never need us. So we put together 22 fun ways to build fun and romance into your marriage right now so hopefully you don’t need intensive marriage counseling.
You will see a bunch of links we personally picked just to make these ideas come to life for you. None of them are affiliate links. They are all just to make life a little funner (and easier for you). We hope you enjoy this one as much as we enjoyed writing it for you!
15 Fun Date Night Ideas For Couples In Oklahoma City or Tulsa
Here at Marriage Solutions we’re always on the lookout for fun local activities to do for fun date nights. Fun is crucial for a love to last. We need to laugh together and go on adventures both great and small.
You know a life full of stress without stopping for fun can cause any great couple to end up in a marriage counselor’s office.
So to inspire you, we have assembled 15 great date ideas for couples to do in Oklahoma City or for our couples in Tulsa to take a quick trip south.
The Cause of Most Fights in Marriage - and it's Not Money!
It is a commonly thought that the number one thing couples fight about is money. That is simply not the case. Although money is a point of stress it is not the biggest issue facing couples. The number one issue that causes the most trouble in marriage is actually a lack of feeling close. Here are 10 other more common problems a marriage faces...
The Magic 5.5 Hours a Week That will Transform Your Marriage
This is the time of Thanksgiving! Giving thanks for your family, friends, pie, and of course your SPOUSE! For some you reading this eNews e-mail you may have found yourself in a rut relationally. Maybe you just don't know what to do to get started in a positive direction. Small steps are all you need. Yes, baby steps in a positive direction can be the difference between working it out and kicking them out. Before you toss in the towel try just altering 5.5 hours in your week. Not even 5.5 hours in your day JUST your week. This will make a difference:
7 Keys to Fighting Fair
Have you caught yourself saying this or something like this to your spouse:
“You never clean up after yourself! I am always picking your dishes up off the table! What makes it worse is you always leave a mess and never consider my feelings and that makes me so $%!@* angry! You always act like such a baby and you always expect me to act like your mother!”
It’s only natural that we become very comfortable with our spouse. But as we unload our thoughts and feelings we need to think about how we are effecting our relationship long term.
Establishing Your Identity As A Couple In The First Year of Marriage
The task of the first year of marriage is to establish yourselves as a married couple - to become comfortable with your identity as a married pair and to adapt to dealing with others as married partners. That challenge is often complicated, however, by relatives who, well meaning though they may be, want to make certain that they still play a central role in your lives...
Secret #7 How To Create Rituals, Goals, and Roles for A Happy Marriage
The 7th and final step to creating the marriage you want is to have a "Sense of Shared Meaning." By this I mean you need to have "rituals, goals and roles" that you share.
Marriage isn't just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together. Developing a culture together doesn't mean a couple sees eye to eye on every aspect of their life's philosophy....
Helping Your Spouse Win
Successful couples realize they must help their partner realize important life dreams and become effective at making each others life dreams and aspirations come true.
In short: Help each other win.
A good way to handle conflict in your marriage is working together as a team to achieve each other's life dreams. Many conflicts in marriage are caused because life dreams are in conflict. You need to...
Secret #5 Keeping Interactions Soft
Secret #4 The Trick of Accepting Influence & Sharing Control
Successful couples accept influence from each other.
Meaning they listen to, and seek out each other's opinions before making a decision. This is particularly hard for most men and some women. So men please don't feel like I am picking on you in this blog post. I am a man myself; I know how difficult it is to do what I am saying here.
But it is extremely important to...
Secret #3 Turning Towards Your Partner In Times Of Need
How Fondness & Admiration Leads To Success In Marriage
This means they retain some fundamental sense that their partner is worthy of being respected and even liked. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance.
Although happily married couples may feel driven to distraction at times by their partner's personality flaws, they feel that the person they married is worthy of honor and respect. When this sense is completely missing from a marriage, the relationship has a very....
Creating Space for Your Spouse (It's not what you think)
Something that successful couples do that separates themselves from non successful couples is they create "Cognitive Room" for each other. Meaning they know what is going on in their partner's day to day world; they know what stresses they face, what their goals are, who they like and dislike at work, names of childhood friends etc....